Different Psychological Habits to Built High Self-Esteem

Psychologists always heard from lots of people about their low self-esteem. They always say that they are successful but they still don’t feel like enough, still, not worth it.

If you think that you are among those who have low self-esteem, then it’s hard for you to come out of it. But if you see the problem is in your capacity to overcome it, then you are automatically putting yourself in a growth mindset to improve your sense of self

To build your self-esteem here are few things you can start with to cultivate self-esteem.

1- Try to avoid negative talks and spend more time with people you enjoy.

Spending more time with those who actually don’t like you then it’s hard for you to like yourself. Sitting with those will always end with bad talks. Spend lots of time with those who like you will end with productive talks which make you feel better toward yourself.

2- Avoid Negative self-talk.

In order to change low self-esteem, try to observe when we are engaged in killing self-worth. Just like driving on the highway, seeing a bad driver who is driving very bad in rush hour and we say who idiot they are.

Just like after realizing that you blew in a conversation with your colleague, and you said how stupid I was and he/she will think how stupid I was. Instead of this who good it will be if you say that you made mistake and next time you need to think before you speak. This will give you self confidence in yourself.

3- Reduce the fear of rejection.

The best way to reduce the fear of rejection is to provide yourself with multiple options in every important situation. This will make you a sense of belief that if one plan did not work then you already plan B. “Don’t put all eggs in one basket”.

Suppose you are applying to buy your dream house, instead of saying that I will be in shock if they don’t agree on the same price which you are offering. Instead, try to say that I have three best options for the house, if one does not go as you think, then you have the other two best options.

4- Value yourself.

The best practice to increase self-esteem is to value yourself and try to live your life in a way that you don’t compromise your value. Just like you have a plan to reduce weight or to gain muscles and you already decided that you will join gym from this Monday, but after coming from work you feel tired and think you will start from next day. You are making your mind believe that you don’t care what you make a promise to yourself.

Obviously, this needs more commitment to achieve but people struggle to achieve it because their values are not clear. Having a compelling and well-defined vision means that your values matter the most to you.

5- Treat yourself in the way you treat others.

People are kind to others,

guiding them to achieve their goal, supporting them in their difficult stages of life, trusting them humbly and kindly, if any guest comes to their place giving them the best foods which are available if anyone hurt their feelings will forgive them.

But when it comes to yourself they are compromising, they are not working on their goals, not helping themselves in bad stages instead of looking for others to help, making and then breaking a promise to themselves is not matter. and compromising on food.

They need to treat themself in the same way like they treat others. Once you know your values and begin aligning your thoughts and actions with them, healthy self-esteem will not be far behind.

“I prefer to be true to myself, even at the hazard of incurring the ridicule of others, rather than to be false, and to incur my own abhorrence.” — Frederick Douglass